One of the most frequent complaints I've heard from men, especially those married more than 10 years,  is that their sex life just what it used to be. 

Sometimes of course, the cause is the kids. Raising kids can be all consuming leaving little time for anything else. But other times kids have nothing to do with it, they're out of the house, and there are other factors at work. 

If you want to build a successful long term relationship that includes the passion and intimacy most men crave, then you'd better be honest with your spouse and yourself. There's nothing that destroys a relationship as quickly as dishonesty.

I understand that for many men opening up requires a huge effort. Our culture still idolizes the strong, silent type of stud who can't be bothered talking "personal stuff"  to a woman even if she happens to be his wife. But it may be time for that stereotype to be retired.

If you doubt what I'm saying, that being up front with your wife about serious stuff; your feelings, your fears will make for a stronger relationship and a better sex life then try this simple test. Try it my way for a month or two and see what happens. I guarantee the benefits are well worth the effort.